SEX FOR WOMEN IS...COMPLICATED
---Study Shows Significant Difference

Two weeks ago, Pfizer Inc. ended research on whether its bestseller anti-impotency drug Viagra can be used to treat female sexual problems. Studies were stopped because initial results were inconclusive.

Why so? Because researchers found out that women engage and approach sex differently. For them, it is a mind game. For us men, it is simply, look, point, and shoot.

The long held suspicion (or hypothesis, if you would like to make it sound scientific) that women are a lot more complicated than men is true, as the maker of Viagra has found. Men and women have a fundamentally different relationship between arousal and desire.

Much to the consternation of Pfizer's researchers, arousal and desire are often disconnected in women. For men, arousal almost always leads to desire. So by improving a man’s ability to have erections, Viagra measurably affects his sexual function and improves it (hence, the success of Viagra).

Mitra Boolel, leader of Pfizer’s sex research team, explained that men consistently get erections in the presence of naked women and get on with it by having sex, while with women, things depend on a myriad of factors. While Viagra can indeed create the outward signs of arousal in many women, that seems to have little effect on a woman’s willingness, or desire, to have sex, the researchers said.

Simply put, men get aroused and can have sex with pure genital involvement while in women, mind involvement and stimulation plays a major part in her arousal and desire to engage in sex.

The answer seems to rest on the amygdala, an almond-shaped structure found in the limbic system, the brain's seat of emotions. Researchers are finding out that for men, pictures of a new partner light up parts of the brain involved in visual processing and arousal, while in women, there is more notable activity in brain areas linked to reward, emotion and attention.

Read all about the study here.

Australian author Kathy Lee says that to please a woman in bed, all a man has to do is read her a good poem, he also has to learn that the Kama Sutra is not an Indian takeaway and that the mutual orgasm is not an insurance company.

Funny, huh? But do you agree?