25 December 2006

What is Real Christmas Happiness?

Christmas is forever, not for just one day,
for loving, sharing, giving, are not to put away
like bells and lights and tinsel, in some box upon a shelf.
The good you do for others is good you do yourself.

~ Norman W. Brooks, "Let Every Day Be Christmas"

From a commercial point of view,
if Christmas did not exist,
it would be necessary to invent it.

~ Katharine Whitehorn

"Well," said Pooh, "what I like best," and then he had to stop and think.
Because although Eating Honey was a very good thing to do,
there was a moment just before you began to eat it
which was better than when you were,
but he didn't know what it was called.

~ A.A. Milne

Most people say that Christmas is all about happiness, but not everyone fully understands what Christmas or true happiness means. Over the years, confounded with the sad fact of the blind-leading-the-blind, I think Christmas has lost what it really stands for. There was a time when Christmas meant celebrating the birthday of Jesus, the Christ who was promised to deliver man from his own iniquities. Today, that meaning takes a backseat to newer and more commercial definitions like giving spectacular gifts, going to evening-to-morning parties, and eating all kinds of food.

Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not pontificating. Far from it. This is just a puzzle that bedevils me continuously everytime December approaches. I think that if people had enough money, they can give all the gifts they want, party as if there's no tomorrow, eat all the food they can buy, and drink enough wine to get fatty livers immediately --- and still be unhappy. Like preparing for fiestas, even people with not enough money to burn are sucked into the whirlpool of spending and splurging during Christmas, culminating in the misery of bankcruptcy and never-ending debts by the coming new year. Where's the happiness in that?

That is just the economic aspect. If we look at the health-fitness aspect, there's also a lot of selective amnesia going on in Christmas parties and noche buenas among diabetic and overweight patients ignoring doctors' advice and deliberately devouring fat-laden food items and sweet confections. And why not? Among most Filipinos, Christmas happiness only means one thing --- eating lots and lots of ambrosial food.

The quickest way to a Filipino's heart is through his stomach. The latest SWS survey said that more than half (54 percent) of the severely hungry expected a happy Christmas this year. Of course, for those who haven't experienced any form of hunger at all, more count on an even happier Christmastime (63 percent).

"It happens only once a year. Indulge! Indulge!" That's the quotidian excuse flaunted during this time of the year. There's really nothing wrong about consuming lots of food as long as you can burn it. But because many among us do not indulge in regular exercise or daily physical work, excess calories = unwanted fat.

The same SWS survey also noted that the expectation of Christmas happiness among Filipinos has declined from 82 percent in 2002 to 62 percent in 2006.

If you observe the graph above, the reason does not seem because more and more are becoming sad. No, the reason is more fearful than that. Apathy has grown from 15 percent to almost 30 percent over the last four years.

Give me sadness, but not apathy. Apathy can make someone emotionally numb for a long time, and there's no Christmas cheer in that. I hope the outlook improves next year.

How about you? Are you really happy this Christmas? How happy are you? Why?

Whatever state you are in, I wish all of you a Merry, merry, merry Christmas. Be happy always!

5 reactions:

bayi said...

It's the state of mind, partly how you manage your expectations and totally how you manage your relationship with God.

ipanema said...

It's interesting to read this measurement of Christmas happiness. Likewise alarming or perhaps it's reality staring at us, how in a span of four years people have grown apathetic towards this festive season. Economic reasons obviously a contributing factor.

Merry Christmas, Dr. Emer!

Anonymous said...

Me, I choose to be happy! (But hey, interesting survey you have there!) Merry Christmas Doc Emer!

Dr. Emer said...

BAYI: Perhaps that is why hunger influences one's view of happiness. No food means not much brain power. Man does not leave by bread alone? True. But most people will still prefer bread over faith. Merry Christmas, my friend. I hope the rains and the floods have stopped over there.

IPANEMA: Money, used the right way, can make many people happy. Merry Christmas too, Ipanema!

CHAR: Happiness is both a choice and a decision. I agree with you. Merry Christmas!

kneeko said...

heeyyy doc.. merry xmas po. nakaraos din ang pasko namin d2 sa gitnang silangan kahit me pasok.

well, hapiness.. is when you lend a hand to the people in need w/ all you heart.

ask ko lang po kung magkasama kayo dati ni dok nikki sa metro hosp..


happy new year!